Hints for Lovers

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making love as there are o

nds of love as there

l and physical-evidentl

cret of success with wom

or.

rd the secret of success with m

pre-amatory-feminine tactics

to cope with fe

han a ninny.-Which doubt

things, indecision

a manner foes, not friends. The successful wooer is the capto

her huntsman the ardor of the chase, and lightly

terests her too much to bring it to a finish. What pleases her most is stale-mate

uous assault. The woman knows t

as well as metaphor

Question her eyes: they are vastly

delicate, too recondite, or too rash,

age of the eyes, has yet to lear

es: one with the lips;

rd; but this is Pentec

talk in a cr

ersal language: the o

telligible or as e

to love,-though she may be

n enough stands agape at his own powerlessness be

the battle between the Retiarius and the Mirmillio. The coquetry

are as practical

are never pract

of love, men and women s

or the race that a woman's

ttlesome Pegasus "Emotion", methinks the colts

more fatally fascinating: the unifo

the secret springs of f

nd lips will enthrall, while

or is there some inscrutable and psychic power?

n will forsake the kindest of husbands to follow recklessly one who

physical charm, it counts not for all in the matter of love. Yet what it may b

aware of all

o grant all that lov

sought bestowe

atisfied. At bottom the real question is this

has to be found out for oneself-if it be discover

is no a priori reasoning p

g more potent t

virtue and frailty, is leapt by that Pegasus, Pass

e potent than words; -though perhaps it is w

ve, love laughs at promises-that

d always it astonishes the man; it is this: to change

mes the giver,-or rather the demander,-man's wonde

re-crossing

stance. Either you are out-classed, or

d resistance rarely is b

ly quite detests d

iving a daring

en a pretty wo

one letteth out water, the beginning o

more than th

ngue contradict each

n, and she is a sagacious woman, who will differentiate them. The question resolves itself into that w

ch, be quick with the landin

learn to prefer the mature manners of the man of the worl

h of a reluctant hand-a semi-tender phrase-an unexpected glance-the momentary pressure of petulant lips-a blanched cheek-a look prolonged one fractional part of a second beyond its

most women seem tho

are won, few m

by what she h

o which woman will always succumb: t

mely difficult of s

eep-seated a feeling, that few

apt to regret the giving. In time, too,

elf twice: one or other gift

ent that causes a woman's heart to flu

nerally a mortgage-

s difficult

in love as there is in law. Nor is

n either party discovers that the t

ee simple,-though few

the incomplete one. Which sounds illo

se, in the man, tempor

t. And in this we can detect a significant dist

al satisfie

yet satisfied the re

assion. For Each takes pleasure in believing that h

n of premature passion, both rankle in the breast-and,

ng a woman can throw in

perhaps no better clue

pro

mane is ecstatically uttered

n the presence of women; but women rarely stand in awe of men.-Nothing differentiates t

tions of which are that the man shall doff all

an unequal combat, even were both

on will pierce a

's shafts-be they those of laug

is vulnerable to t

e shaft. If that misses its aim, she is powerless: it is lik

n the man to take the

etend that he takes no

t pretend that she g

one of skill. What irks man is that a woman pre

clumsy wooer.

who thinks he is to

oman sometim

, the sweeter her su

weeter than in sur

, et toujours de l'audace"(2) shoul

f women; but it must

cated b y Discret

midity,-i

Da

g than conquest; nothing so irresisti

n is an effort put forth for the p

fought for. No one knows this

she always makes to a

defense works, a wo

ho does not storm

ll which a man is expected to leap. His a

interest, and you

iled, dis

le attempts to make a f

is an infe

surrender is n

n reality a desertion, a

d she is an

itulation is

ty deter you. The marble Galatea c

up to the present, be accurately enumerated; but perhaps t

f a woman's 'No.' Yet in nine cases out of ten a woman says 'No' merely

woman to refuse it will the lips the consent tha

ay' are meaningless and

t it is shallow and evanescent, or that it is put on. At a

to gallantry. But, like

aded. It is not the woman; it is her scruples. Bes

es are either dor

n and the man of the world of fort

n matters of love, it is the weaker and the defens

e opportunity whic

issed is an oppo

the man who sees the opport

rence is worse tha

er disappo

ery. Those who know this, affect spontaneity.

of ultra-delicacy in a compliment t

sive admiration can give

express admiration

ve admiration from a male admirer 144 often

dmiration, not the admir

de

(3), but not her lover. But this

rival is a complement of e

t somebody before has said

ueror. She admits the right to ovation, an

-stones unless y

s and refrains from crossing

advantage is not taken,

er, too, t

e sweet, those unsou

t, probably no daughter of Eve-ever quite looks b

himself from any feminine entanglement that

nderful for Agur; now-a-days the way of a man w

out end. Of that fatal and fateful dilemma when a wife or a husband falls victim to the wiles of another, there are, for the delinquent, two

God's blessing upon a liaison. Bu

lways works havoc-ha

s clandestinus est am

ouble they lay up in store for themsel

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