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ion, of sympathy or charm, is to say nothing save that we know not what it is. All unknown to herself, it wraps its owner round with airs the which to breathe uplifts the spirit, and yet, may be, perturbs the heart, of man. Even its effects are recondite and obscure. It allures; but how it allures now man shall tell. It impels; but to what, does not appear. It rouses all manner of hopes, stirs sleeping ambition, and desires and aspirations unappeasable; but for what purport or to what end, none stays to inqui

e understands women, d

a mystery, she would no

ag

But woman need have no caus

sified; women n

he case of women

woman is a variety. And every man

a study in he

nd women would be friends, not lovers (But

on, in however fair or however frai

le in man the divine spark by means 30 of the m

it is determined by tw

other way o

e true to the kindred po

u

and identical that her orbit becomes the per

n vain. Towards varying coast-lines it bears itself variously; here, placid and content; there, dashing furious. But none ever stamped his marked upon its brim, and always it remains the refluent, reluctant sea. Of it man knows only the waves that br

g to house that sea, shaping it, over looking it, and staying and governing its tides. Yet cha

as is that which is

e made for men; men fo

sign of Nature, that they sho

to discover something. She asks a man

risk is her personal appearance.

w at an unseasonable hour, bu

ke a woman au p

ghts are:

uties are

d monarchial about a woman: like a que

nly transformed from an absolute into a constitutional monarch : she act

world is: to spur men on to high and noble ac

ost fervid emotions, and at the same time to keep them at their high

c is inexorable. But it proceeds per saltum. It

: To let a woman have her own way is

please a woman is to let

acting as the spa

is, nobody knows,

really is, one must se

ccepted lover to whom she has utterly devoted herself can a woman bare h

ys partially ec

comes, the man

be alone she opens the innermost recesses of her soul. For him she wears no masks, affect no accent, plays no part. Even her features take on a different and unique expression before the offspring of her womb. Ne

the goal of

t, a woman's burthen is

ng"

an is like till she is

s womanhood. And,

wives-who could mother mankind in their bo

e is has owed his al

combined, will ever reveal the real feelings of a woman. To

ate utterance is n

is: first, to get married; s

e greater havoc among men: the women with t

, beware. When a woma

ys prepared fo

ousy rarely go hand in ha

t is apt to be at fault is in detraction

n as its best is in deploying the men who s

r, she not only deploys them, but tri

than a multiple and simultaneous

an will maneuver her a

ot argue. Hear her ex

man is a contradi

o feel that she is want

d, It is astonishing how much downright cruelty a woman will

o attracts wom

to pity, to comfort, to de

ms is a sight which should arouse -not o

ommon

ink a woman will sympath

is a si

ubtle combination of for

orcefulness and gentleness, always

s can go without endangering a woman's admira

nature as in the delight with which, at the bottom of her heart, she recal

oman never brings pure reason to bear upon her actions; she acts

egard herself culpable. Always, she says to herself, she wa

nt woman

reason, thinks he has proved her wrong, at th

in the myriad shapes she assumes, but also in her amenability to nothing but superior force. Women form, perhaps, where men are concerned, the single exception to the rule

f. Co

l women, an

ines, from

creo

. And this they neve

uce between h

f infinitely more potent in

bility is a wonderfull

mplex and the most var

e delectable combination known to men; and Aphrodite has

Bologna, the enchantress of Ottaviano; of Francesca; of Guenevere; of the sweet seventeen-year old novice of Andouillets, Margarita, the fille who was "rosy as the morn"; of the Beguine who nursed Cap

to the rapt star-gazer when he f

ven; bit did the blush make her

unclouded pool is the

tency of woman's capriciousness is only exceed

id to comprehend the laws by which she is swayed. Woman

e place to two things: a lover, and a baby.-But perhap

ted to be the consorts of kings, yet comport themse

ce, 44 there is no position to wh

she is ex o

paragingly of her se

-well, she will not be up in arms. The reason for

ts abstract disparageme

s perfect

accounted quite as stainless as the sta

eservedly loves, her love will go to leng

an despot t

f demureness features by nature t

ften a clue to his char

omes ab

ic face is often owne

rthe

iablerie in a woman at on

men that so many women are unaw

her concerning herself than that you

vious of some men's fami

d it is by a woman she will be last forgiven. The last

onsidered indiscreet. Cast a slur upon a woman's p

a woman's s

ng-mindedness in woman is t

soned arrow in her quiver. Well is it for the men

rn the quality of the adm

tless this is trite. But it is true as trite. Yet men rarely fi

in a sigh than a ma

an so much as indiff

iscovered passion she q

all things, that to hold that heart she must never wholly satisfy it. And many-and

any man beyond possibility of extrication. And 48 so perhaps they could; but th

unscrupulous woman

an, like the snow-clad hearth, sparkles: Under the gaze of a man by whom she knows

cozen men: few women th

e those who combine too effective

e part of the lady is not always symbol of

y no means betokens

invincible by man.

he not vary, men would tire. T

ke and disgust vari

d temporary pleasure. (Though this they do not always instinc

incompatible

g woman reproves! How

nd unmarried-the world contains

er par excellence

women will devise to intensify the lur

as right and proper for the woman as to ma

ttracting has long sinc

ck to recogni

ouses curiosity

lubly, calls down a curse upon her successful

icap them in multifarious ways. Probably the o

ed of her stricter sisters. But, before

cter than are men. A woman will often startle a

put on his guard b

l be ill content with s

d woman loves be

is a shy

tters is a fool.-Her gesture will conta

could punctuat

unger sister evok

is, May a moneyed man fall in love with me ! And she is not alway

fitter companion for men than the old,

of the New Woman rathe

s more inclined to aim at rivalry than at companionship with

nhood, that, whether new or old, woman

ing to women, so, it is probable, every variety of f

phrase the "New Chemistry": the materials a

vogue in Europe and America in the last two decades o

ally worse than a man's. At all

woman's love for him s

e that is sweet

more tremulous t

n element of the freest and frankest savagery in the

he extraordinary fabl

d m

ever a savage. I

onal fiction: she can avert an attack by a

ried. See "Dramatic I

. The invincibly taciturn woman is so rare as to have

ous of any woman that opens a man'

o could and would delibera

fling artifice to the winds, and look and act and say as great Nature prompts,-wildly,

ny a woman would dispense wi

ven love, what else is

re of itself-much le

ord

he community to provide for the preservation of th

en who are worth the r

trength of will than to

n overcurious to enquire whet

us to enquire whether the strength of the

feminine, the feminine mind is satisfied. O

, strong-minded or weak- are never happier th

, and depends upon, the woman, will some da

feet-that is exquisite to

refrains from exhibiting a man's se

in a resplendent woman. And of this

adroit finesse, where a man woul

ould blind his eyes to

y pretends oblivion

he is too fastidious to espouse the men who would marry her; the men she would marry s

scence and bloom of life, is bes

it of woman; but in penetr

tracts her against her will. But such a man rouses a

ble argument is: a look. And a

ffective weapon; rarely if

e men be concerned, it is upon her personality that she

man: it must be immaculate; constant with the fashion of the hour; an

ese form the code of

part of a woman i

cause man is too blind

n or frankness of speech, it is not to be expected of her that she sho

n order to arouse or to retain t

y made love to the man-and few

fluence, and that women, does not, no earthly sage will ever know. A

'I will be loved,' as it is for a ma

wer are div

nd, ground off which I shall be hooted by

her choice, rail as it as the woman may, has not yet

he ownership of her by the man, that it is to the man who a

changes her all

oyalty to the man who assumes a

the shadow of a doubt of his proprietorship-at on

ent at the ease with which a woman wi

, but only because the previous owner lightly esteemed,

fender; the man a mate for his delight, his comfort, and his solace, a keeper op is cave or hut, a mother and nurse for his heirs. And provision, support, and defense, being, in pristine days, matters of strength

altered the relationship of man to mate, conceal thou

of her heart has any ob

o woman would sa

n who she thinks will glory in that ownership and keep his property safe-not only from material ha

t any other man should dare for one instant to covet or alienate (5) that most precious of hi

ther she regards him as one having discernment, and his daring

ans, in her eyes, loyalty to him who properly ex

: to the man who proves himsel

g petted and admired and made much of all their lives: this bu

and women tacitly (though never openly) look up to and admire this dominance, even when exercised over themselves; since THIS,

f the gift by word as well as by deed, the woman is

he fact that one man may sue another in a cour