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not, include great social gaiety. In other words, you who are establishing yourself, either as a young husband or a stranger, would you, if you could have your wish granted by a genie, choose to have the populace look upon you askance and in awe, because of your wealth and elegance, or would you

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and heart; or other funds of egotism, hard-heartedness and unconcern; or deposit-nothing! And the ban

The more you put in, the more will be paid out to you. It is too trite to put on paper! But it is astonishing

or has scarcely a dime to bless himself with. In the same way, a woman's social position that is built on sham, vanity, and selfishness

wer is written in his heart, his intellect, his altruistic sympathy, and his ardent civic pride. A subject, however, that is not so

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by inheritance; but a stranger who comes to live in a new place, or one who has always lived i

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eryone who was asked to her wedding breakfast or reception, and even many who were only bidden to the church, call on her. She keeps their

th her own and her husband's families, whether they call on her or not. By and by, if she gives a general tea or ball, she can invite whom, among them, she wants to. She should not, however, ask any mere acquaintances of her fa

by seeing them. But it is not at all necessary for young people to entertain in order to be asked out a great deal; they need merely be attractive and have engaging manners to be as popular as heart could wish. But they must make it a point to be considerate of everyone and never fail to take the trouble to go up with a sm

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fected manner, and a sympathetic attitude. If she is so fortunate as to possess these attributes her path will have roses enough. But a young woman with an affected pose and bad or conceited manners, will find plenty of thorns. Equally unsuccessful is she with a chip-on-her-shoulder who, coming from New York for instance, to live in Brightmeadows, insists upon dragging New York sky-scrapers into every comparison with Brightmeadows' new six-storied building. She might better pack her

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ich ranks in direct proportion to the standing of those who wrote the introductions. Since, however, no one but "persons of position" are el

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o other city, except London, is as unaware as that. When people move to a new city, or town, it is usually because of business. The husband at least makes business acquaintances, but the wife is left alone. The only thing for her to do is to join the church of her denomination, and become interested in some activity; not only as an opening wedge to acquaintances

ce she has already made on one of the two former occasions, and this acquaintance in turn invites her. By the time she has met the same people several times, they gradually, one by one, offer to go and see her, or ask her to come and see them. One inviolable rule she must not forget: it is fatal to be

house. And if admitted when making a first visit, she should remember not to stay more than twenty minutes at most, since it is always

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to those who sit at the gate rattling at the bars, or plaintively peering in. The better, and the only way if she has not the key of birth, is through study to make herself eligible. Meanwhile, charitable, or civic work,

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ocial importance have called on her and asked her to their houses, a newcomer does not have to stand so ex

al times over. She who is hospitably inclined can ask people half a dozen times to their once if she wants to, and they show their friend

ask the Oldnames to dine after being merely invited to a tea. But when Mrs. Oldname asks Mrs. Stranger to lunch, the latter might then invite the former to dinner, after which, if they accept, the Strangers can continue to invite them on occa

ildren know at school, and Mrs. Stranger can quite properly go to fetch

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ter are very young couples. All hostesses go on asking single men and young people to their

instance, who are clamored for everywhere, have every attribute-except money. With fewer clothes perhaps than any fashionable young woman in New York, she can't compete with Mrs.

y shown them by helping to make a party "go" wherever they are. Both are amusing, both are interesting, both do everything well. They can't afford to

undoubtedly in the long run because he plays unusually well, but to use card-playing as a "means of making money" woul

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l success of one woman, and the failure of another. And as it is almost impossible, without advice, for any stranger anywhere to know which people like or dislike each other, the would-be ho

approachable, something is not to her liking. The question is, what? Or usually, whom? The greatest blunder possible would be to ask her what the matter is. The cause of annoyance is probably th