THE BREAD WINNER

in prayer. A younger sibling would beam with pride. A cousin would whisper, "God bless you." Those moments mattered. They gave the breadwinner strength to go on,

." Then, over time, the support that once brought joy becomes seen as a right. And the breadwinner's value is re

by how much the breadwinner is giving. The moment they can't-due to job loss, illness, burnout-the unity crumbles. Relatives grow c

not wonder if the breadwinner is okay.

dren," "Monthly allowance for Mama," "Hospital bill for Uncle," "House rent for Cousin," "Contribution to church building." The breadwinner becomes the ATM of the community,

the future-they are accused of selfishness. "After all we did for you?" they are told. But what was done for t

iage, missing medical checkups-just to meet everyone else's needs. Yet those sacrifices are rarely acknowledged. No one asks how th

p visiting home. Stop sharing their plans. Not because they don't care, but because they are tired of being

same people who benefited from their generosity now paint them as wicked, arrogant, disconnected. Ru

and rewrites it through the lens of personal benefit. And it creates a cycle in which b

struggles with their families. They suffer alone, plan in secret, and mourn their pain q

g in ideas-but all their resources are tied to constant consumption by dependents. Nothing is saved. Nothing is grown. Everything is spent just

es of life. They bleed like everyone else. They break like everyone else. And until society learns to stop

pile it higher. Communities must teach appreciation, not assumption. And breadwin

then can giving be rooted in love, not fear. Only then